Letter to Birth Parents

Hello!

If you are reading this letter, then you are likely considering adoption as an option in your baby's future. We would just like to emphasize how much respect and admiration we have for you for being able to make difficult decisions for the well being of your baby's future. Adoption is not an easy decision, but if you decide that it is the best option for your baby, we will willingly help out in any way we can.

In this letter we'd like to address any possible concerns you may have by trying to put ourselves in your shoes. If you come up with any other concerns or questions (no matter how seemingly small), please email us at robandtiffadopt@gmail.com. We'd also like to encourage you to take a look around this site to get a better understanding of who we are as well.

Here are a few questions that we have come up with that you may possibly want addressed:

What kind of relationship do we have with each other?
(written by Robbie)
Life with Tiffany is so happy. I feel like we have so much love for each other and we have a good understanding of one another. Because of this love and understanding we have developed for each other, I feel like there isn't any obstacle thrown our way that we won't be able to work through. Tiffany is my greatest support and I'm also happy when I see her happy and working towards her goals. I love her SO much!

(written by Tiffany)
My life with Robbie is rich and just so full of love and laughter! It means so much to me to have him by my side as we go through life. We both love each other in a way that brings out the best in both of us. Despite how cliche it sounds, I really am a better person because of him. I know how blessed I am to be in such a loving relationship and and to know that he is always there for me. He is my rock and my best friend and I count myself extremely lucky to be his wife!

What kind of goals do we have for our future kids?
We feel one of the top priorities for our kids is to enjoy being kids. Life is too short to rush too soon into adulthood. We'd like them to be able to look fondly back at their childhood with a lot of happy memories. We'd also like to open their eyes to the world around them and see the good in it. This could be done through giving service, traveling and just being involved in our own community. We also want to teach our kids to make worthy goals and work towards them. It's vital for them to figure out what is important to them and then for us as parents to support and encourage them as they work towards related goals.

How will we handle discipline when the need arises?
We both agree that we don't want to use any form of physical punishment as a way of discouraging negative behavior. Tiffany has found time-outs to be effective while working with kids. Whatever the punishment (time-outs, revoking privileges etc.), we know it's always important to communicate with the child so they know what behavior resulted in the punishement. It's very important as well to let the child know that we love them, so they don't confuse the negative consequence with our feelings toward them.

How do we envision our future family environment?
We both come from large tight-knit families, which is how we've always wanted our own family to be. We envision having close relationships with each of our kids, and that they will be close to one another. It's important for each individual family member to feel stronger by being a part of the family circle. Because of our relationship with our kids we will seek to find out their likes, dislikes, feelings about anything, and their life experiences. As this relationship develops, we hope to be able to have open communication with them.

What is most important in our lives?
Another thing that we will teach our children is to develop a personal relationship with their Heavenly Father. Despite our best efforts to provide a happy and stable environment for our children, we know that things happen and we may not always have control over what life throws our way. True happiness, stability, and love only come through our Savior and knowing that, our kids will always have His constant support to help them through life.

Hopefully now you have a good understanding of who we are. We wish you all the best as you weigh the different aspects of your decision. Again, feel free to contact us for whatever reason.

Love,

Robbie and Tiffany